The Journey of Grief – Acceptance

Definition

Acceptance in human psychology is a person’s assent to the reality of a situation, recognizing a process or condition (often a negative or uncomfortable situation) without attempting to change it or protest. The concept is close in meaning to ‘acquiescence’, derived from the Latin ‘acquiēscere’ (to find rest in). [Wikipedia]calm-peace-innerpeace1

My Thoughts…

Since the passing of my mother, acceptance has been the hardest stage of grief for me to go through. As I mentioned before, all five stages of grief are continuous. With that being said, I have been through the acceptance stage more than once. I love the Latin interpretation of the word, to find rest in, because that is what acceptance means to me, to be at peace about my mother’s passing. I often find myself at peace on holidays, birthdays and the anniversary of her passing. It’s usually by force and not so much by choice. The special occasion forces me to accept that she is no longer here and I only have two choices, I can either go nuts and be super sad or I can choose to be at peace with it. Usually I find myself going nuts the days leading up to the special occasion and then on the day of I am sad until I choose to be at peace. That’s my personal belief about acceptance, it’s a choice. A choice that is ok to renege on sometimes, but it’s important to choose peace every now and again if you desire to live a stable life. I mean, I can’t believe that my mom is kicking it with Tupac on a remote island forever. Lol

Challenge…

Today I challenge you to choose to accept the passing of your loved one or loss of a relationship. Today I challenge you to choose to rest and experience peace. And when you do, choose peace, stay there a while and enjoy that place while you can. There will be  plenty of sad days to choose from again.

Erika McFarland

 

2 thoughts on “The Journey of Grief – Acceptance”

  1. I just learned to accept that my mother is gone… I blamed so many people rather than realize that she was sick… but the factors that lead to her death had me hateful..

    1. Yes, I was just speaking to a friend the other day about the type of anger that can come with you having a sick loved one and or when they pass. It’s a different type of anger that is tough to rid yourself of. I think the word hateful describes it well Arlene. It sounds like you have since let that anger go, or at least lessened it to a lower form. That’s a great thing, because anger is the part of grief that I believe consumes us the most. My blog post today will be on anger actually. Keep moving forward in your journey and keep sharing your comments. 🙂

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