Freedom Day Ten

“There is Freedom in Balance”

Life with restriction results in limited freedom. Yet, I have come to learn like many of you, we need some restriction and boundaries or we will end up in a whirlwind of trouble. The trick is to discover where to place boundaries and where to remove them. Once you have found a healthy balance in this, you have found Gold!

When I was younger, probably up until my mid 20’s, I lived for “Remember that time?” moments. Most of the chances that I would take or the moves that I would make were to one day be able to say, “Do you remember that time?” Let me just tell you, that was a dangerous time I lived in. Lol, don’t get me wrong, it was equally my most freeing and daring time. A time filled with fun, great adventures and lots of memory making. On the contrary however, it was also a time where I experience, rejection, heartbreak and regression in my relationship with God.

Those are two opposite ends of the spectrum, how can both of them exist simultaneously? Well, let me explain to you how. These two extremes coexist when you don’t have balance in boundaries and your boundaries begin to be misplaced. See, when you are going on vacation with your bestie and you guys are looking for the time of your lives, your boundaries are going to lax just a bit. Where as, when you are taking a chance on love your boundaries have to be a little more strict. If not, you will find yourself in lots of trouble, lots of pain and you will find yourself in compromised positions.

That is why it’s important to have balance. Balance is where freedom lies, not in doing whatever you want. There is a time and place to be completely vulnerable and ready for whatever comes your way, but there is also a time where you need to be a bit more careful and have boundaries. Knowing the difference will save you from heartache and allow you to experience a type freedom that you will never forget.

Freedom Day Nine

 

What’s your strengths?

     As someone who is a little different from many people that I encounter, I’ve experienced my share of strange looks and smug comments. People aren’t accustomed to someone with so many flaws being so confident in themselves. Or a person who spends most of her day watching tv and taking a nap every time she’s gets the privilege to, to be also equally or more productive. It’s not that I have magical powers, although, I am pretty magical. 😉 It’s simply that I have learned to play into my strengths.

Instead of fighting to be like someone else or how the world tells me to be, I just be who God created me to be. So if that means I do work at my oon pace, regardless of how unorthodox my methods are. As long as I’m being productive and effective, who cares how I get it done as long as it gets done right?

So the lesson in freedom today is play into your strengths. Don’t waste all your energy fighting your weaknesses, when your strengths are right there ready to be great right along with you.

Freedom Day 8

Honesty

    I want to share a piece of a conversation that I had with my friend yesterday evening. It went a little something like this…. Friend: “Hey girl, Hey! Me: Lol, Hey girl, Hey!” That’s one of our MANY little things. Conversation continues…. Friend: “How are you, how was your day?” Me: “My day was well, thank you. How was yours?” She proceeded to share her day with me. Me: I seen that you had called me yesterday, but I was washing TV so I didn’t answer.” Now I’m sure many are reading this and thinking, “How rude!” I’m going to explain to you why it’s not.

Although, my friend did have a rough day and it would’ve been nice if I would have picked up the phone, she was able to speak to another friend who told her EXACTLY what she needed. In addition, I was being honest. I really did ignore her call, because I was watching television. Don’t get me wrong now, I love my friend and I try to be there for her whenever possible, but that particular day I was having a rough day myself. You see, watching TV is my coping skill and at that particular time I was doing what is called, Self-care.

Self-care is very important, especially for someone like myself. I spend at least 60% of my day tending to the behavioral, mental and spiritual needs of others. So saying no or simply not answering a phone call, is my way of staying sane in this crazy life of mine. My point in all of this, is that sometimes you have to take a step back and do what’s best for you and it’s okay to be honest about it. I believe the more honest we are about things such as self- care, the more normalized it will become. Causing more people to take part in such a vital part of life. in addition to that, I believe as we become more honest with ourselves and others in general then subsequently you will find freedom.

Honesty

I want to share a piece of a conversation that I had with my friend yesterday evening. It went a little something like this….
Friend: “Hey girl, Hey!

Me: Lol, Hey girl, Hey!” (That’s one of our MANY little things).
Conversation continues….

Friend: “How are you? How was your day?”

Me: “My day was well, thank you. How was yours?”
(She proceeded to share her day with me. )

Me: “I seen that you had called me yesterday, but I was watching TV so I didn’t answer.”

Now I’m sure many are reading this and thinking, “How rude!” I’m going to explain to you why it’s not.
Although, my friend did have a rough day and it would have been nice if I would have picked up the phone, she was able to speak to another friend who told her EXACTLY what she needed. In addition, I was being honest.
I really did ignore her call, because I was watching television. Don’t get me wrong now, I love my friend and I try to be there for her whenever possible, but that particular day I was having a rough day! You see, watching TV is my coping skill and at that particular time I was doing what is called, self- care.

Self-care is very important, especially for someone like myself. I spend at least 60% of my day tending to the behavioral, mental and spiritual needs of others. So saying, “No”, or simply not answering a phone call, is my way of staying sane in this crazy life of mine.
My point in all of this, is that sometimes you have to take a step back and do what’s best for you! Its okay to be honest about it. I believe the more honest we are about things such as self- care, the more normalized it will become. This will cause more people to take part in such a vital part of life. In addition to that, I believe as we become more honest with ourselves and others we will subsequently obtain FREEDOM!

Freedom Day Seven

 

“There is Freedom in Unconditional Love”

     Unconditional Love is so powerful! It transcends all boundaries and reaches beyond the stars. It’s not contingent on someone’s attitude, looks or status. No, unconditional love finesses its way through all of the mess and find its way straight to your heart.

There is such a freedom in knowing that someone loves you beyond your flaws and faults. You are free to be yourself without fear of judgment or rejection. More importantly, you are free to pass it on to someone else.

That’s exactly what I try to do everyday, love others unconditionally. I was privileged enough to experience this form of love from my mother and I remember her telling me how rare unconditional love it was. She told me that I may get it from one or two people outside of her and my siblings and if I did, then I would be lucky. Sad to say, but she was right. I haven’t really experience unconditional love from another person besides her and my siblings. But, I’m glad that I was able to experience it at all and I’m sure that as I go on living and loving others unconditionally, it will soon find its way back to me.

 

Freedom Day Six

 

 “This Is Freedom!”

      I walk into my empty home, no one calling my name and nothing to tend to. I begin to change into something more comfortable, dropping my work clothes right in the middle of my bedroom floor. As I finish eating my dinner and climb into my bed, I start up my Hulu and dig into my pint of Neapolitan ice cream. Thinking to myself… Ahhh, yes! This is FREEDOM! 😌

Freedom Day Five

There is freedom in prayer !

Many of us struggle daily. When we feel bound, we often search in places that aren’t necessarily healthy for us. Yet, there is one place that I have found that has given me the ultimate freedom… Prayer!!
Prayer is a conversation between a person and their deity. When I am in prayer, I find that I am completely detached from every burden and worry. As I speak to God and make my request known, I can feel a weight leaving me. I get lighter and my thoughts become more clear.

As I journey down this road of freedom, I’m beginning to notice a common denominator…Detachment. It seems as though, when I hit a level of ultimate freedom it’s after I have been detached from something or someone. This allows me to fly without restraint. This is exactly what prayer does for me; it allows me to enter into a height where my cares and troubles can’t follow me. My negative thoughts aren’t welcomed and my haters don’t qualify.
You see, at this level of freedom only faith and hope have the ability to fly this high. Hope begins to act as the rocket shuttle and faith provides the gas and power to get there.

Where is “there” you ask? Well I’ll tell you. This is the place where possibilities lie, protection awaits and answers exists. Praying may start off as a simple conversation, but it ends with chains being broken and bondage losing its grip.

So take a moment today to experience this kind of freedom in prayer. Close your eyes, express yourself to your God and then wait and listen as He speaks back to you. This place of freedom is one of the spacial ones! Is this how you’ll choose freedom today?

 

Freedom Day 4

As I sit and think about freedom and what it means to be free, I just can’t help but to ponder on, what it looks, sounds and feels like. I’m reminded that it’s important not only to be free, but to be liberated.

Oh boy, what a great feeling it is to be liberated! Google says that liberation is the act of setting someone free from imprisonment, slavery, or oppression; release. It’s also described as the freedom from limits on thought or behavior. So to better help you feel exactly what Google described, I want you to take a moment and close your eyes. Think about the feeling someone has when they are released from prison, or the feeling that you get when you FINALLY get to go home after a long day of work! Do you feel that? It feels like a long deep breath being released. Its like the blood rushing through your veins, reaching your heart and causing it to be full! Liberation feels like Joy!

Furthermore, liberation is not just a feeling, but it’s a state of being… a way of life. See, it’s not just a moment in time and a funny feeling in your body. No, liberation is constant and ever evolving. It’s not enough to be physically free from imprisonment, (whether it’s actual jail, a bad relationship or a bad business deal), but one must also be physically, mentally and spiritually free! This all takes time!

I see liberation as a gradual process. I can be set free from something one day and truly see the elevation of freedom years down the line! Again, liberation is ever evolving and constant. It’s a constant state of release from bondage and oppression ; the ability to dream and envision without limitation.

Ahhh, hello liberation!! How wonderful it is to know you, experience, and feel you.

So, as we continue down this journey of freedom, embrace those things that cause you to be free and dwell in the places that cause you to be liberated. Take that trip, call the ones you love, go after that job, move to that new city!! You no longer are held back from dreaming or better yet, going after your dreams. Now, you are FREE! Now, you are LIBERATED!

” Let Freedom have its way and let Liberation be a constant place.”

Freedom Day 3

“The Freedom of Nothingness”

As I was leaving work, all I could think about was getting home and doing NOTHING. Not thinking about nothing .. talking about nothing … and definitely doing … DING! DING! DING! NOTHING!

There is such a freedom in nothingness, not being bound to anything for a moment in time is so freeing. But, we are so hard on ourselves and others when it comes to it. You ever tell someone that you’ve done nothing all day? They look at you like you killed somebody, like how dare you do nothing!?! Lol…

Don’t let their smug looks discourage you, take your nothingness by the horns and run with it. When you take the time to detach from the world and everyday life hassels you, allow your mind and body to take a break and rejuvenate. So have your moment … work and life will still be there when you return. 😊

“The Freedom of relaxation”

     Today at work I did an anger management group with the boys, focusing on the “Deep Breathing Technique.” The information sheet talked about how taking purposeful deep breaths can help to relieve immediate and long-term stress and anxiety. Releasing relaxation sensors, relaxing you muscles and bringing relaxation to your whole body.

To my surprise the boys took the exercise quite well… Well, most of them did. Now, some of you may be asking, “Where do you work and who are these boys?” Well, I’m glad that you asked. I work for the State of Louisiana, at a juvenile secure facility. I am a counselor with a caseload of eight boys, ranging from the ages of 14-18. What I have found while working with the boys in the environment that we’re in, is that it’s not an easy thing to relax. Being in a place like jail, you find yourself in a constant state of stress, which means you’re always tensed and on high alert. So, when I came across the deep breathing exercise I thought it would be perfect for us to discuss.

As I think back to the boys standing in the middle of the room with their eyes closed. I am reminded of that moment when they felt safe enough to close their eyes, free enough to take a moment and pause and relaxed enough to breath in for 4sec, hold it for 4sec and release it for 6sec. How can something so simple be so powerful and if it’s so simple, why don’t we do it often? Not just deep breathing, but breathing in general. We just don’t Breath enough on a regular basis.

So I encourage you all to start taking PRPOUSEFUL deep breaths, because what the boys and I discovered today is that it WORKS! The smiles and body language of these boys were a site to see. They responded with, “That actually felt good.” “I feel relaxed.” “I’m sleepy.” They were kind of surprised that it worked and I was happy to see them take to something that will help to lower their stress levels, reduce their anger outburst and overall, better their lives.

I leave you all with this food for thought from Elizabeth Gilbert, “Generally speaking, though, Americans have an inability to relax into sheer pleasure.”

Freedom Day 2

“The Freedom of Relaxation”

     Today at work I did an anger management group with the boys, focusing on the “Deep Breathing Technique.” The information sheet talked about how taking purposeful deep breaths can help to relieve immediate and long-term stress and anxiety. Releasing relaxation sensors, relaxing you muscles and bringing relaxation to your whole body.

To my surprise the boys took the exercise quite well… Well, most of them did. Now, some of you may be asking, “Where do you work and who are these boys?” Well, I’m glad that you asked. I work for the State of Louisiana, at a juvenile secure facility. I am a counselor with a caseload of eight boys, ranging from the ages of 14-18. What I have found while working with the boys in the environment that we’re in, is that it’s not an easy thing to relax. Being in a place like jail, you find yourself in a constant state of stress, which means you’re always tensed and on high alert. So, when I came across the deep breathing exercise I thought it would be perfect for us to discuss.

As I think back to the boys standing in the middle of the room with their eyes closed. I am reminded of that moment when they felt safe enough to close their eyes, free enough to take a moment and pause and relaxed enough to breath in for 4sec, hold it for 4sec and release it for 6sec. How can something so simple be so powerful and if it’s so simple, why don’t we do it often? Not just deep breathing, but breathing in general. We just don’t Breath enough on a regular basis.

So today I encourage you all to start taking PRPOUSEFUL deep breaths, because what the boys and I discovered today is that it WORKS! The smiles and body language of these boys were a site to see. They responded with, “That actually felt good.” “I feel relaxed.” “I’m sleepy.” They were kind of surprised that it worked and I was happy to see them take to something that will help to lower their stress levels, reduce their anger outburst and overall, better their lives.

I leave you all with this food for thought from Elizabeth Gilbert, “Generally speaking, though, Americans have an inability to relax into sheer pleasure.”