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Freedom Day Ten

“There is Freedom in Balance”

Life with restriction results in limited freedom. Yet, I have come to learn like many of you, we need some restriction and boundaries or we will end up in a whirlwind of trouble. The trick is to discover where to place boundaries and where to remove them. Once you have found a healthy balance in this, you have found Gold!

When I was younger, probably up until my mid 20’s, I lived for “Remember that time?” moments. Most of the chances that I would take or the moves that I would make were to one day be able to say, “Do you remember that time?” Let me just tell you, that was a dangerous time I lived in. Lol, don’t get me wrong, it was equally my most freeing and daring time. A time filled with fun, great adventures and lots of memory making. On the contrary however, it was also a time where I experience, rejection, heartbreak and regression in my relationship with God.

Those are two opposite ends of the spectrum, how can both of them exist simultaneously? Well, let me explain to you how. These two extremes coexist when you don’t have balance in boundaries and your boundaries begin to be misplaced. See, when you are going on vacation with your bestie and you guys are looking for the time of your lives, your boundaries are going to lax just a bit. Where as, when you are taking a chance on love your boundaries have to be a little more strict. If not, you will find yourself in lots of trouble, lots of pain and you will find yourself in compromised positions.

That is why it’s important to have balance. Balance is where freedom lies, not in doing whatever you want. There is a time and place to be completely vulnerable and ready for whatever comes your way, but there is also a time where you need to be a bit more careful and have boundaries. Knowing the difference will save you from heartache and allow you to experience a type freedom that you will never forget.

Freedom Day Nine

 

What’s your strengths?

     As someone who is a little different from many people that I encounter, I’ve experienced my share of strange looks and smug comments. People aren’t accustomed to someone with so many flaws being so confident in themselves. Or a person who spends most of her day watching tv and taking a nap every time she’s gets the privilege to, to be also equally or more productive. It’s not that I have magical powers, although, I am pretty magical. 😉 It’s simply that I have learned to play into my strengths.

Instead of fighting to be like someone else or how the world tells me to be, I just be who God created me to be. So if that means I do work at my oon pace, regardless of how unorthodox my methods are. As long as I’m being productive and effective, who cares how I get it done as long as it gets done right?

So the lesson in freedom today is play into your strengths. Don’t waste all your energy fighting your weaknesses, when your strengths are right there ready to be great right along with you.

Freedom Day 8

Honesty

    I want to share a piece of a conversation that I had with my friend yesterday evening. It went a little something like this…. Friend: “Hey girl, Hey! Me: Lol, Hey girl, Hey!” That’s one of our MANY little things. Conversation continues…. Friend: “How are you, how was your day?” Me: “My day was well, thank you. How was yours?” She proceeded to share her day with me. Me: I seen that you had called me yesterday, but I was washing TV so I didn’t answer.” Now I’m sure many are reading this and thinking, “How rude!” I’m going to explain to you why it’s not.

Although, my friend did have a rough day and it would’ve been nice if I would have picked up the phone, she was able to speak to another friend who told her EXACTLY what she needed. In addition, I was being honest. I really did ignore her call, because I was watching television. Don’t get me wrong now, I love my friend and I try to be there for her whenever possible, but that particular day I was having a rough day myself. You see, watching TV is my coping skill and at that particular time I was doing what is called, Self-care.

Self-care is very important, especially for someone like myself. I spend at least 60% of my day tending to the behavioral, mental and spiritual needs of others. So saying no or simply not answering a phone call, is my way of staying sane in this crazy life of mine. My point in all of this, is that sometimes you have to take a step back and do what’s best for you and it’s okay to be honest about it. I believe the more honest we are about things such as self- care, the more normalized it will become. Causing more people to take part in such a vital part of life. in addition to that, I believe as we become more honest with ourselves and others in general then subsequently you will find freedom.

Honesty

I want to share a piece of a conversation that I had with my friend yesterday evening. It went a little something like this….
Friend: “Hey girl, Hey!

Me: Lol, Hey girl, Hey!” (That’s one of our MANY little things).
Conversation continues….

Friend: “How are you? How was your day?”

Me: “My day was well, thank you. How was yours?”
(She proceeded to share her day with me. )

Me: “I seen that you had called me yesterday, but I was watching TV so I didn’t answer.”

Now I’m sure many are reading this and thinking, “How rude!” I’m going to explain to you why it’s not.
Although, my friend did have a rough day and it would have been nice if I would have picked up the phone, she was able to speak to another friend who told her EXACTLY what she needed. In addition, I was being honest.
I really did ignore her call, because I was watching television. Don’t get me wrong now, I love my friend and I try to be there for her whenever possible, but that particular day I was having a rough day! You see, watching TV is my coping skill and at that particular time I was doing what is called, self- care.

Self-care is very important, especially for someone like myself. I spend at least 60% of my day tending to the behavioral, mental and spiritual needs of others. So saying, “No”, or simply not answering a phone call, is my way of staying sane in this crazy life of mine.
My point in all of this, is that sometimes you have to take a step back and do what’s best for you! Its okay to be honest about it. I believe the more honest we are about things such as self- care, the more normalized it will become. This will cause more people to take part in such a vital part of life. In addition to that, I believe as we become more honest with ourselves and others we will subsequently obtain FREEDOM!

Freedom Day Seven

 

“There is Freedom in Unconditional Love”

     Unconditional Love is so powerful! It transcends all boundaries and reaches beyond the stars. It’s not contingent on someone’s attitude, looks or status. No, unconditional love finesses its way through all of the mess and find its way straight to your heart.

There is such a freedom in knowing that someone loves you beyond your flaws and faults. You are free to be yourself without fear of judgment or rejection. More importantly, you are free to pass it on to someone else.

That’s exactly what I try to do everyday, love others unconditionally. I was privileged enough to experience this form of love from my mother and I remember her telling me how rare unconditional love it was. She told me that I may get it from one or two people outside of her and my siblings and if I did, then I would be lucky. Sad to say, but she was right. I haven’t really experience unconditional love from another person besides her and my siblings. But, I’m glad that I was able to experience it at all and I’m sure that as I go on living and loving others unconditionally, it will soon find its way back to me.